They are psychotic!!! They attacked me anyway!

Relax, if you've been following the rules, they didn't get much. You've taxed your peeps only just enough to pay your knights, so you don't have a lot lying around, and you've made sure to use your resources to build your city, build your wall defenses and train your troops.

The bully has just attacked you because they are angry and they're trying to get you to stop defending. They might have gotten a few gold, or a minor amount of resources. What I do is thank them for stopping by and I give them a souvenir from my castle gift shop: Gift shop souvenir

Now the fun starts. They've upped the ante, so you are free to play a little harder. Here's how you do it:

In addition to reinforcing with double the scouts, add some archers (especially if your Alchemist has researched higher level fletching) to the mix. Maybe 100 or so. At this point *you* are in control of how many you lose.

So when they approach your castle, your archers will start shooting. You'll get to kill a bunch of them and here is the important part (I can't say this enough) they can't get anything. You want them to get a net loss every time they mess with you that they can't recover with what they stole from you.

This is comperable to the little terrier dashing out from under the bed and instead of biting the big, mean dog on the nose before he dashes back under the bed, he puts a big, solid chomp on the big dog's "dangly bits". :)

At this point, the bully will either leave you alone, or they will be so mad that they'll keep bashing their head futilely against your walls until they tire of the game. You probably won't because you'll be laughing at them behind your hand each and every time they do it. It may get to the point that you can't wait until they attack you. :)